Hi folks, I hope you're all having a terrific week. 😊
This week has been very challenging for me as I build my fledgling coaching business while homeschooling our 14-year-old son, CyanTMR.
The struggle lies in the fact that my to-do list and content calendars are having to take a back seat while I micromanage Cyan's schooling. We both have Asperger's, although he's a little further along the spectrum than I. But that means that we are constantly clashing and feeling the pull of our obsessive natures towards the things we want to be doing. As the adult, I get to be the one that accepts the situation, and that's where the real struggle is: finding the quiet place in my mind where I can flow in time and give myself 100% to my son. It's really hard and I feel like I'm failing. That leads to intense feelings of low mood state, which then starts to come out in other parts of my life, such as in my Zoom calls with my amazing team, or in my resentment at having to take care of everyday chores while my wife continues single-handedly to support us financially.
So, #acceptance. That's what I talked about in this week's podcast episode, which I was privileged to be able to record on the beach on a beautiful sunny winter's day.
I livestream the recording of the podcast episodes when I can, so if you'd like to be notified when I'm going live, hit me up on Twitter, YouTube or Facebook; it goes out to all three and includes some chit-chat before and after the recording. And seeing as you might not have known that, here's a link to the livestream playback of this week:
Step 1: Admitted we were Powerless—that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 1 saved my life. Hyperbole? Nope. I'm convinced of that. If you'd like to hear my story of how I got there, check out this week's video.
It goes live tomorrow (Saturday 30 Jan) but my newsletter readers get to see it first.
Called out for Hypocrisy
I got called out this week by an old school friend. He's been watching my recovery content and felt compelled to call me out for having treated him poorly back in the day. I had to take it on the chin, because he was right. I won't say too much more about it here other than to say that, once I'd got over the initial emotional response (despair), I saw it as an opportunity to make amends, and so I picked up the phone and called him. It wasn't easy, but we ended up having a nice conversation. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I fixed it, but I hope that he found my apology acceptable. Maybe we'll talk again sometime.
It was a good reminder to me of the power of Step 9: made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
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